Bisexuality is one of the three main classifications of sexual
orientation.Millions of people across the world identify as being
bisexual,and consider it a natural,fulfilling part of their lives. Unfortunately,not everyone is able to understand that what they
identify with is an acceptable part of themselves. Here are some basic
ideas to consider should you ever feel conflicted about your
bisexuality.These will hopefully encourage you to celebrate the
magnificent individual you are.
1.Remember, whether you identify as a bisexual person
already or suspect that you may be bisexual, it's not the only thing
that defines you. There are many aspects of your personality that
contribute the person you are:no single one wholly governs who you are.If you are just beginning to suspect that you may be bisexual,do not
become consumed by the changes you perceive your realization will incur.What ultimately matters is you knowing yourself.Before you can be okay
with being bisexual,you must acknowledge and respect the effort you're
making to understand yourself.
2.Determine your feelings toward bisexuality in general.
Is it something you may have been morally opposed to? Were you
previously accepting of bisexuality, but never imagined that you would
fall into that category? Knowing where you stand will give you the
benefit of further understanding why you believe you could be bisexual.
3.Think of people you know that identify as being a bisexual.Evaluate how you perceive they are affected by their bisexuality,and
how it reflects on their lifestyle.If someone you are close with is
bisexual, this will greatly help you to understand that being a bisexual
does not automatically ostracize you.There are many reasons why you
might appreciate this person and their bisexuality is only a single
factor.
4.Understand that bisexuality is a widely-accepted idea.
There are some particular religious sects or groups of people who shun
the idea of non-heterosexual orientations.Do not let yourself be
consumed by it.Many people are uncomfortable with the idea of
bisexuality simply because it is not as publicized as heterosexuality.
5.Do not be afraid of what others will think of you. Regardless of what someone thinks of your bisexuality,their opinion
alone is not enough to change that aspect of you.Trying to suppress
your sexuality for someone else's peace of mind only impairs your
ability to respect that you are open to change.
6.Find your own meaning in it.Your sexuality is a part
of you like any other that should be nurtured,explored,and
celebrated.It can be justified by something as simple as appreciating
the beauty of seeing two women embrace,or as intricate as believing
that you are too inspired by human beings to enjoy a relationship with
only one sex.
7.Explore the bisexual world from where you are most comfortable.There are many online websites and forums designed specifically for
bisexual individuals to meet, communicate,and learn from one another.A
dating website is probably not the best place to start unless you've
already come to terms with your bisexuality and are seeking a romantic
relationship.Online blogging websites such as Livejournal also serve as
forums,with entire communities dedicated to and moderated by bisexual
individuals.
8.Above all,know that accepting yourself is more important than any negative opinion someone may have against your bisexuality.
9.Don't become convinced that there is something "wrong" with you if you are bisexual.If this is an idea you've had previously,you will have to decide which
is more important to you:your peace of mind from knowing what's
important to you,or letting yourself be controlled by the misconception
that you have to fit into someone else's mold.
10.Don't feel pressured to be open about your sexuality until you are ready to be.
Even people who fully accept their bisexuality may choose not to
publicize it.If you've just recently realized you're a bisexual,you
will need time to understand what it means to you as an individual. Don't think that you're lying to yourself or others if you don't discuss
your bisexuality as part of an everyday conversation.Most heterosexual
individuals do not feel they must divulge their sexuality as a given.Treating your sexuality as an anomaly will only prevent you from fully
accepting it.
